Marriage Counselling Perth & Relationship Coaching
Read this first, it may save your marriage or relationship.
Normally, the first area couples focus on is marriage counselling, why? Because, traditionally it’s all you know. In my experience I normally see couples after they have been to marriage counselling and it’s actually made matters worse, the statistics speak for themselves.
Working with couples
Working with many couples and individuals over the years I’d find normally, the female was the one who reached out, occasionally the male. Fortunately, this trend is gradually changing.
As males, although well meaning, we try and solve the problems with our ‘Mr Fixit’ attitude, that mindset very rarely works. Trying to use the same set of skills that contributed to the problem in the first place we seem doomed to fail before we even start.
When we understand what the core problems are, we can then focus on working on a process to get the relationship back on track.
As a qualified educator and coach, I can teach new skills on how to reconnect.
Relationship coaching or couples coaching is a relatively new concept that is achieving great results.
There isn’t the stigma around coaching as there is counselling, especially for guys. Men are more likely to work with a relationship coach than a counsellor going on past experiences.
Coaching for many years all over the world, and working for one of America’s top marriage saving websites, my knowledge and experience is extensive.
Issues are similar the world over. Inability to manage conflict, poor communication skills and lack of connection. Infidelity, trust and one of the biggest is not being able to or willing to see things from one another’s perspective.
Relationships are about connectedness.
Relationships are about connection – knowing where things drifted apart we focus on reconnecting. In a relationship we start out as ‘you’ and ‘me’, and if things start to work out and you feel something for that person you slowly become a ‘we’ or ‘us’. Routine sets in, life takes hold and differences start to surface, soon you’re back to ‘you’ and ‘me’. If you’re not careful, you vs me!
It may seem that all is lost, but often it’s not always the case. Couples just forget how to relate. I aim to get you to a place of a ‘flourishing we’.
Even when you’ve been living apart for a period of time, the fact remains it is still possible to re-ignite the spark. I have clients who can attest to that.
It only takes one person to upset the status quo and change. This new change can cause the shift in the dynamics of the relationship.
If you’d like to know more about a newer innovative approach to saving your marriage or relationship call me now for more details.