Self-Esteem Within Families, The Importance.
Self-Esteem Perth – this workshop will help you explore new ways to grow your self-worth and self-esteem. Learn how to be more assertive. Simple steps to better manage your anxiety. Be inspired to lead a more rewarding and fulfilling life.
Do you live with a great deal of anxiety or uncertainty? Is it hard for you to trust? Do you ever find yourself to be more concerned with what other people such as your spouse or children feel about you? Do you prioritise what others think over how you feel about yourself?
A lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem can contribute to a range of unhealthy family dynamics and can result in long-term problems for yourself.
The symptoms of low self-worth can vary greatly, but can include:
- Setting high hopes in expectations of others, but being prepared for disappointment
- A lack of trust in others
- A feeling that you have nothing to give, and therefore an assumption that nobody would expect anything from you
- A strong dependence on others
- Angry or intense reactions to family disagreements or difficulties
Do you react or respond?
How you choose to cope in a world that has constant pressures and changes often relates to your level of self-esteem. With low self-esteem, you may think some “cause” determines your reaction.
You could believe that it is specific events that make you angry, such as a sudden decision your partner has made, or some money they have spent without discussing it with you. These conflicts can quickly spiral, leading to a general inability for the family to cope.
Poor communication can lead to further poor self-esteem, and so the cycle continues.
In fact, your choices of reaction can range from heavily dysfunctional to optimally functional depending on how you decide to handle the situation.
When you think about it, “causes” do not determine your reactions. You have the power to take charge of how you respond, forming your own context. This behaviour, once cultivated, enables you to make a major life shift from being the victim of your own poor self-esteem, to becoming empowered enough to take ownership and responsibility. Not only will you feel the benefits, but your family will too.
Where does your model of communication come from?
Communication within families plays a vital role in making this happen. Self-esteem impacts on communication and will inevitably play a significant role in family dynamics and behaviour.
“I’ll do absolutely anything to please you, as long as you don’t reject me”. Does this self-talk sound familiar? So often with low self-esteem, this can be the subtext of communication. It feeds into dysfunctional dependence, lack of trust and fear. It can take a time to re-learn this pattern in a different way, by shifting the communication to include you as a priority, and of equal importance to the family around you.
Within a nurturing environment, families must respond to each other in a way that nourishes and enhances one another’s self-esteem. By taking ownership of your reactions and expectations, as well as adjusting your language (which in turn will alter it’s subtext and general reception), you can begin to take helpful steps towards a healthier, happier family dynamic, where your ‘self’ is recognised as an important, positive and welcome influence.
If you would like to know more about how to increase your sense of self-esteem, tools to better manage anxiety and learn what it means to be more assertive join me on one of our up and coming Self-Worth workshops, or call me now for further help.